When you were worrying about anything, the most common advice you might receive is stop thinking. It is a good advice but not the practical one. The most important capability of our brain is that we can think, however, we have no ability to shut down our thinking. Our mind works continuously and it keep thinking one thing or the other all the time. Your Brain stops only when you are dead.Worries can harm you beyond imagination. It can lead you to depression. Below are few tips that might help you to cope up with tension, anxiety and depression:
- Our brain can produce hundreds of thoughts within a short span of time. Discard negative thoughts and focus on positive and happy thoughts. Elaborate those thoughts in your mind. Think about every minute detail. Distract your mind from your position to another world. Try to smile, even if you can’t smile from inside, just fake it using you lips stretch outward. One more thing you can do is to involve yourself in such activity which needs a lot of hand- eye co-ordination. For example juggling three balls. Your thinking brain can do one activity at a time. When you try to do several activities at the same time, which you are not habitual to, your brain will stop thinking about your worries and focus on the job in hand.
- You must understand that thinking and worries or tension are two entirely different things. We think all the time but it is not dangerous. Thinking is most precious gift we have. Problem occurs when we start thinking selectively about our worries and start taking tension about that thing which is not in our hand. If you conquer your worries, you will never be depressed. There is a Chinese proverb that says “if you can solve your problem, then what is the need of worrying? If you cannot solve it, then what is the use of worrying”. Worrying is waste of time and energy. Instead of worrying and taking tension, you must first figure out whether you can do something about your problems? Focus on your circle of influence, i.e. those people and resources which you can directly influence. If there is a solution, go for it. If not then have fun with your friends and family.
- Share your problems with your best friend and loved one’s. Live in real world. Do not be a book-worm all the time. Do not be a net-holic . Humans are social animals. Keep yourself busy and creative work and entertainment. The biggest problem with depression is that patient never realise he/she is in depression. Hence, interacting with other people is very important. One more important point to skip anxiety is to stop asking question about why and start asking question about how. Many people invite depression by asking question like –why this happens to me? Why me? What wrong I did that this occurs to me? All this questions are meaningless as we do not born with a warranty card or list terms and conditions. We just born in an alien world. We must accept it as it is. Our experience teaches us that life is not fair, thus be ready for unpredictable incidents. Start asking –how I can come out of this situation. How this can make me stronger person. How I can take advantage of this situation to improve my life.
There are always two ways of thinking: positive and negative.
When a small bird shit on you, you can curse it or you can thanks God that elephant don’t fly.
When your flight is delayed, you can get angry on everyone or you can go to nearby coffee shop and enjoy a nice cup of coffee.
Life is all about making choices. Make right choice to live a happy life.
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