Blind Marriages

There are many broken marriages because of the physical or mental incompatibility. People marry without knowing each other. They take the oath of living together forever as soul mate and in very first night they come to know this relation will not last any longer because of incompatibility! Still you try to patch up things but within a year or so you feel like enough is enough. You can’t spoil your whole life for your oath. You deserve a better life and with a heavy heart you broke up and move on.

In Indian sub-continent, this is a tremendous problem. We can call such unions as blind marriage where boy and girl didn’t see and talk to each other until they get married. Families of bride and groom make all the arrangements and they feel quite proud about it and believe it is morally correct. We can minimize such incidents of illogical practice resulting in divorce, if we let boy and girl to meet and understand each other completely before marriage. Let them spent some time together before they marry each other.

We do see some successful blind marriages, but in most of the cases such marriages succeed only because of wife does all the sacrifices to save her marriage. Her parents always tell her that if she disobeys her husband she is wrong, and there is no space in their home for her if she came back after fighting with her husband. Can there be anything more ridicules’ than this? Society preaches such behaviour as morality!

Time had come when we should raise our voice against such stupidity so-called morals. In small cities and villages you can still find such practice. I do not understand logic of it in a society which allows co-education . But when it comes to marriage it becomes somewhat objectionable if bride and groom want to see or talk to each other before marriage, the whole family will have problem. As blind dates are dengerous, so are blind marriages which can ruin your entire life.

How to Invest intelligently?

Below are some important points about investment which you must keep in your mind while investing.

  1. Diversification: Never put all eggs in same basket. Always invest money in two to three different places like real estate, gold, equity and debt instruments like FD and Debt funds etc.. By doing so, you can minimise your risk of losing your entire investment.
  2. Start Saving and investment early in your life: Time is money. It is not just a saying but a proven fact. Always put your money to earn for you. As you give your investment more time, your return will grow faster due to compounding effect. To reap benefits of compounding, you need to give 5 to 10 years time to your investment. Encourage your youngsters to start investing in safe avenues like PPF and debt funds. Even Rs500 investment over a period of 20-25 years can fetch you big corpus. You can even start with Rs100 in some mutual funds through SIP. To know more about Mutual Funds you can read my article by clicking here.
  3. Discipline and regular investment: Small amount invested regularly can give you bigger amount than big amount invested irregularly. Most often, we wish to accumulate big amount for investment. However, when we have some need, we take out some money from this amount and this way our investment plan remain a plan! Invest monthly whatever surplus you have and discipline yourself to save every month that small amount whatever be the condition. Make regular investment a rule of your life not a habit.Because habits you can change, rules you can’t.
  4. Egg, Chicken and Hen method: Whenever you invest, always invest with short term, medium term and long term perspective.Because you will need money in every part of your life. Thus, investment must be goal orianted like retairement, education, foreign tour and marriage etc. For short term, always keep some money (equivalent to minimum 6 month of your earnings) in saving account or in liquid funds, which can be redeem immediately. For medium term (2-5 years), invest in large cap. Mutual funds, Gold and other such instruments. For long-term investment, invest in PPF, Index funds, FD, NPS, debt funds, gold and govt. securities. You may not get high return but your money will be safe and with time it will grow rapidly.

Happy investing!!!